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What is fellatio?
Fellatio is oral sex performed on the penis of a man. This is commonly called a blow job. To
perform good oral sex on a partner, good communication is necessary. Finding out what he likes will go a long way to performing very satisfying oral sex. It is a good idea to ask your partner after he
has received oral sex about what aspects he enjoyed the most.
What about semen, safe sex and deep-throating?
 While some people enjoy the
taste of semen others do not like this salty and sour viscous mixture. The taste of semen varies from man to man with some semen having a sweeter taste while others can be bitter. In part this
taste variation depends of the man's diet. If you don't like semen in your mouth, you should ask your partner to give you a signal when he is about to come. Then you can
remove the penis from your mouth and use your hands to continue the gentle stimulation. Have a towel ready if you do not wish to swallow
the semen so you can quietly spit the semen out. It is really not a good idea to allow someone to cum in your mouth especially if you
have small cuts or sores in the mouth. Even brushing your teeth before fellatio can produce tiny cuts that can allow HIV from the semen to enter your blood stream.
You may also wish to use condoms which are a good idea for the practice of safe sex. Flavored condoms will make this more pleasurable
for you. You can also try flavored water-based lubricants that come in a variety of flavors like strawberry, cinnamon, and mint. These will also heighten the sensitivity of the penis during fellatio.
Don't use lubricated condoms for oral sex as they tend to taste bad. Use either your own saliva or a flavored lube for lubrication.
"Deep-throating" occurs when you take the penis into your throat past the gag reflex. Many people find this difficult to do but the gag reflex
can be controlled with practice. Still deep-throating is not necessary to perform a blow job. Most of the action occurs at the sensitive head of
the penis and you should concentrate on that area. More information about the male sex organs is available here.
What else should I be doing besides sucking?
While the head of the penis is important, there is much more you can
do to stimulate your partner. Most men receive great pleasure from having their entire genital area massaged. Many men also enjoy having their scrotum and testicles fondled or licked during oral sex.
Cup his balls now and then also. The most erogenous zones include the frenulum area (see male sex organs), the line of skin down the
centre of the testicles, and the underside of the shaft of the penis. You can use your tongue as well as your fingers to stimulate these areas.
Another erogenous zone is the perineum which is that area between the scrotum and the anus. This area is very sensitive when the man is aroused. Try gently rubbing this area with your fingers while
performing oral sex. Vigorously massaging the perineum just prior to ejaculation gives many men a more intense orgasm.
Some men also like to have their prostrate massaged as well during
oral sex. To do this you need to make sure your fingernails are cut very short and lubricate one finger well. Gently and slowly insert the
finger with your palm up and lift up until you feel a bump. This is the male prostrate gland. Stimulating the prostrate by gentle rubbing produces an intense pleasurable sensation in most men
How do I give a blow job?
First slide back the foreskin and concentrate on the main event –the penis. When learning how to give a proper blow job you must
concentrate on the most sensitive areas of the penis. The area that is particularly sensitive is the frenulum. This is the area just below the head of the penis on the underside, and is
the most sensitive part of the penis. The seam of the penis which runs from the scrotum to the head, the base of the penis, and the entire head of the penis are other sensitive
areas. You can concentrate on these by licking or sucking all around the particular area.
Now that you have the penis in your mouth what do you do? The most important point is to keep your teeth
from scraping the penis as this can be very painful. You need to learn how to get your lips to cover your teeth. To do this, place your lips
together and your teeth apart. Slowly open your lips while keeping your teeth apart. With this technique of keeping your teeth covered by
your lips you are ready to take in the penis. Your own saliva will provide sufficient lubrication but you can also use a flavored lube.
Be enthusiastic as you perform. If you seem like you're having fun, it will make the experience that much more pleasurable for him.
Vary your technique. Variety is the best way to keep him fully aroused. You can stroke, kiss, lick, run your tongue up and down the shaft, and
take the penis all the way into your mouth to keeping him guessing and really turned-on.
Use your hands constantly. Run your hands over his chest and legs.
Play with his butt. Use your hands to gently cup his balls. Not only does this feel good, it's a good way to show him that you're really into it with him.
Look up at him frequently to make eye contact. Many men find this very stimulating to see this contact and to see his penis in your mouth.
As he gets more and more aroused, increase the pressure with your mouth and with your hands. Get into a rhythm, increase the suction, and move your head in an up-and-down motion.
We've kept the best technique to last. Learn to find the frenulum which is on the underside of the penis directly below the head. This
small ridge of skin is like an orgasm trigger. Massage the frenulum with your tongue and spend a good amount of time here. One trick is to do
a tap tap tap with your tongue on the frenulum followed by a swirl of the tongue in that area. Then continue to repeat this along with your
other techniques. Most men cannot tolerate this for very long without having a very intense orgasm.
What are the best positions for fellatio?
The best positions are those where both partners are comfortable. You also need to be positioned so that the angle of the penis and the
angle your throat are somewhat aligned.
A common position for fellatio is when the man receiving sits or lies on a bed with his partner kneeling or laying down in front of him. This
gives the person who is performing oral sex complete access to the penis, scrotum and anus. The position is also at a good angle for the throat so that entry of the penis into the mouth is not a problem.
Some men prefer to stand while the partner kneels down before him.
You can also lie on your back on the bed and receive your partner from
above. As the man straddles you, he can carefully insert and withdraw his penis from your mouth. If you are new to this position, it might be a
good idea to have your partner hold the base of his penis so that the penis doesn't enter so deep that you gag.
You may also want to try mutual oral sex in the '69' position. This can
be accomplished either with one partner above on all fours, or laying on each other's sides
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