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Why do we masturbate?
Masturbation is the deliberate stimulation of the
genitals to achieve sexual arousal for pleasure and orgasm.
It is done at least occasionally by a large majority of both men and women. In one recent national survey study, 95 percent of men and
89 percent of women reported having masturbated. It is the first deliberate self-gratification sexual act for the majority of men
Most men who masturbate usually do so more often than women, and they are much more likely to experience orgasm when they masturbate than women.
Next to sexual intercourse, masturbation is the
second most common form of sexual behaviour even among men that have a regular sexual partner. Even young children find the stimulation of their genitals pleasing although they do not recognize this as
"sexual" until early adolescence. Once adolescence is reached however, masturbation increases dramatically for both sexes and often continues throughout life.
The male sexual organs are designed
to do two things: make sperm and semen, and ejaculate it out of the body. Once the semen and sperm are out of the penis, the body doesn't care what happens. The sex organs don't know and don't care what
the source of the sexual stimulation is. Young men will sometimes get erections as a result of vigorous physical activity, even in the absence of any specifically sexual stimulation. Most young men
experience spontaneous erections when they were not consciously thinking sexual thoughts or doing anything to stimulate them. The male body does not know or care whether the semen ends up in a vagina or
a throat or an anal cavity or in a tissue. In other words, so far as the body is concerned, masturbation is exactly the same as any other kind of sex. Masturbation is real sex.
What are the masturbation myths, beliefs and fables?
 Over the centuries, the term masturbation has conjured up many myths, beliefs and fables about its damaging and debasing nature. Such
negative images can be traced way back to the word's Latin origin, masturbare, which is a combination of two Latin words, manus (hand) and stuprare (defile), thus "to defile with the
hand." So the notion of shame and uncleanliness implied by the defiling portion of the word has been carried through to the modern translation. However for some time now, medical authorities have
been in agreement that masturbation causes no physical or mental harm. Nor is there any evidence that children who engage in self-gratification are in any way harmed by it. So why is this important
source of sexual pleasure still regarded by some with guilt and anxiety? Centuries of strict religious teaching that masturbation is sinful coupled with ignorance of the fact that masturbation is not
harmful have kept this guilt and anxiety alive. As well many have received negative masturbation comments from parents as they grew up or were admonished if they were caught masturbating.
Putting all these influences together, it is not surprising that confusion and guilt often surrounds the act of masturbation.
Questions about masturbation
For centuries scare tactics have been used to discourage boys from masturbating. Here are our answers to these often silly tactics aslong with general questions about masturbation..
Is masturbation harmful? No
Can I catch a disease from masturbation? No
Will my penis change size if I masturbate? It will get larger but only until orgasm.
Can I masturbate too much? Generally no unless you greatly overdo it and it becomes compulsive.
Can I get sick from eating my cum? No, unless the thought disgusts you.
Will I go blind if I masturbate? No
Will masturbation make me go bald? No
Will I grow hair on my palms if I masturbate? No
Does masturbation cause zits? No
Will my penis fall off if I masturbate too much? No
Will my doctor know if I have been masturbating? Not if you wiped the cum off your pants.
Will my parents know I have been masturbating? Not if you clean up properly and flush the Kleenex used for cleanup down the toilet. Still they might guess you are doing it since almost all boys do.
Will my mother smell cum in my room? Possibly as some people are very sensitive to the smell of cum. Use an air freshener.
What happens to all the cum I am producing if I don't masturbate?
The body just reabsorbs the unused sperm.
Will I stop having wet dreams if I masturbate? Possibly but some males can masturbate and still have wet dreams. Others never have a wet dream.
Will I become gay if I masturbate? No.
Masturbation tips
Its best to keep your fingernails short
Do not grip the penis too tightly. Doing so can cause bruises or rupture surface blood vessels.
Use an oil-based lubricant like Vaseline or cocoa-butter etc. Do NOT use these with condoms however.
Keep the penis clean before and after the act.
Techniques
Single fist:
This is the most common male masturbation technique. Just wrap your fingers around your erect penis firmly and slide your hand up and down over your cock. This technique produces the most contact
between your hand and your penis.
Fist over Fist:
In this technique you alternate fists, sliding first one and then the
other from the base of the penis to the tip. In this way you can strike up a similar rhythm to that of the single fisted method. For variety, try moving one fist upwards and the other downwards.
Double Fisting:
If your penis is of a fairly large size, you may be able to place both of
your fists on your penis at the same time and slide them back and forth on your penis at the same time.
Finger Techniques:
There are many variations of the finger techniques which usually only vary by position of a finger or thumb and can depend on the firmness of the grip. Here are a few examples for you to try. You can
try experimenting with different combinations to find what works best for you.
Two Fingers:
This method generally uses just the thumb and forefinger and can be substituted for the single hand. You can stroke the shaft from base to tip or just run the thumb and forefinger back and forth over
just the head of the penis.
Thumb and Fingers:
Encircle your penis with the thumb and two fingers from each hand.
Then stroke up and down, varying the speed and the pressure until you reach orgasm.
Pillowing:
You place a couple of pillows on the bed or location of your choice and insert your penis in between them. Then thrust your penis in and out simulating intercourse.
Masturbation with Anal Stimulation
Sometimes, people like to experiment with their anus whilst masturbating. Reasons for doing it include: it often intensifies the
orgasm, it makes the person more 'ready' and prepared for anal sex or simply for experimentation.
In most cases, stimulating the anus will result in a more pleasurable
orgasm. Sometimes, people simulate anal sex by putting objects into the anus. Why does it feel good? The prostrate is located within the anus, which is where your semen (cum) is stored. Sometimes, the
rubbing of this alone is enough to bring the male to orgasm.
 What should I use? It is common to simply use your fingers. Start by feeling around with one finger, then use two. Perhaps start to
move in and out gently and slowly. If it hurts, stop. If you are still comfortable, insert more fingers. Once you get up to 3 fingers, this is roughly the size of an erect
penis. Ensure that your finger nails are cut short. It is a good idea to always use some sort of lube - it makes it MUCH less painful. Often soap or Vaseline is often used, but
remember NOT to use oil based
lubes like Vaseline with condoms!
Be careful what you put in the anus. Objects such as carrots or tapered candles can break inside the anus. You do not want to have visit the emergency department at a hospital to explain that you
have part of a carrot or candle in your rectum because you were masturbating. Instead, get a dildo. They are designed to be put in the anus. They are unlikely to snap, and will feel good. They will also
be about the right size and are probably the safest option. Most dildos have a notch at the end, so that the dildo cannot be completely inserted, and can always be removed - try to purchase
one of these. Admittedly, it is illegal for an under 18 year old (in some places) to purchase a dildo. Until then, we recommend you simply use fingers.
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