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"Looking back on life, when you were younger (I'm
talking like 9 or 10), were there any clues that you were gay? Things that seem obvious now, but weren't at the time." SM
The
following are some of the responses that were posted to this question -asked by one of our ChadzBoyz Forum members. Please note that none of these responses mean someone is gay or will become gay. Some
boys fit the responses and are straight. Nevertheless these are the perceptions of early signs of being gay in the opinion of the members who responded.
"In my youth I played doctors and nurses a lot with a male friend. I guess at that age you don't really think about what you're doing but that was a big sign I think." TI
"My obsession with looking at guys, I would say is mine." RC
"I always liked playing with males more than playing with females; I always felt closer. And yet, most of my friends ended up being
girls." LI
"Sometimes played with Barbies, and played dress-up with the other girls in my family." UN
"Playing dress up with my girl friends; only being the girl in video games; being
extremely sensitive...(though that doesn't always point to being gay); having way to many friends that were girls; I liked staring at guys." CR
"I played with lots of girls and their little
girly toys. Being really sensitive and emotional, not being into to stereotypical guy stuff, and being attracted to guys (somewhat a good clue)..." MY
"Oh my god, there are so many for me. It's a
wonder others didn't come out for me! I was obsessed with Beauty and the Beast and wanted the dolls, I have done very artsy things (which sometimes is a tip off: violin, voice lessons, drama) I played
some Truth or Dare games with a guy friend (which I really liked). When I was REALLY little I told my girl cousin that I thought it would be better to be a girl, and have always been into looking at
guys. I mean, I never really liked sports that much either. That pretty much sums up my early gayness, but I am still proud to be me no matter what!" CR2
"Never liked sports, had more of an
emotional side. Didn't do many "gay" activities though, my dolls shot each other." CH
"Never liked sports; I liked Barbies... and sometimes at Fast Food places I'd make my mom get
"Girl toys". The stories with them were a little more violent maybe, though
I was more into arts and crap... on the playground we would like do LARPs based on Mario or Final Fantasy 1
lol...I liked guys. I actually cared about animals and peoples feelings; I was sensitive, I actually cried. I liked dressing up. I tried to look at other guys in the bathrooms." LE
"I remember
when my best guy friend would come over for the night, he would sleep in my bed because I had a double bed and there was no other bed for him. I never thought anything of it. After a while he thought he
couldn't come over anymore for the lack of another bed, and I was truly hurt. Not because I couldn't sleep with him, but because he didn't come over. I never saw anything wrong with it until later when I
realized it wasn't "normal" for two guys to sleep together. Oh course, I don't feel like that now. Razz I'm looking forward to sleeping with another guy!" DW
"And when I was small...I
was always into girly music (i.e. Barbie Girl LOL)." PN
"Every birthday up until I was thirteen I would secretly wish that I would wake up the next day a girl. Pretty much all that's been said
here, cross-dressing, typical female-orientated music, typical female-orientated television programs, typical female-orientated playthings, typical female-orientated emotional responses to stimuli, etc,
etc. I never really liked boys, didn't relate to them. Much more comfortable around girls. I still have problems associating with males, even gay males. It was my lack of hormonal feeling for women that
tipped me off, not my attraction to men." AN
"Never liked sports, emotional side. Many female friends." KI
"But yeah, I played with Barbies with my sister. XD Dressing up was always
fun (funny as I always seemed to end up with women's clothing. Yeah, and of course the whole staring at guys thing...though I didn't realize why I was staring." SW
"I was really sensitive, but I
was really boyish in a lot of ways too. But, once I put on this article of clothing meant for a girl... 'cause it kept you warm... and I was freezing. But then, my mother FREAKED, never put on anything
after that =P
Hmmm... Never played with Barbies... that was a girl thing to play with, that was hammered into my brain very early on, the role of women and the role of men. What's appropriate for each
sex to do, etc? Hmm... In kindergarten and preschool I really enjoyed the "I'll show you mine if you show me yours" game... but I got caught once, and it was a catholic school... so I never did
THAT again.
So yeah, it was pretty obvious I liked boys... I don't know how my parents could possibly think I'm straight after that incident at the school." PE
"Well, in the second grade a
kissed a boy. I think that might have been one of the only pointers I could think of." BN
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