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Many people consider anal sex to be crude and dirty - the ultimate sexual taboo. What is true is that some people love anal sex, others hate it,
some are curious but haven't tried it and some are attracted to it because it is mysterious and taboo. Anal sex can be enjoyable because of the rich body of nerve endings in the anus.
Does anal sex hurt?
 Anal sex should not hurt - if anal sex is a pain in the ass - you're doing it wrong!! With enough lubricant and enough patience, it's entirely possible to enjoy anal sex as a safe and fulfilling part of your sex life. While people
often experience pain when first attempting anal sex, as a person learns to relax, the pain often subsides into pleasure. For men, anal sex also offers stimulation to the prostate, an
organ that provides the rush of pleasure during orgasm. However, some people may never like it, and if your lover is one of those people, respect this
reality. Don't force the idea upon him. Statistics show that roughly 35% of heterosexuals and 50% of the gay community practice anal sex at least occasionally.
You need to use lots of lubricant and have lots of patience in order for your partner to enjoy anal sex. Properly done anal sex can be very enjoyable for both partners. Sometimes taking a bath
beforehand can help you to relax.
What are some tips for anal sex?
 If your anus is clean before you begin
anal sex it will make you feel clean and make your partner feel good as well. Just having sex with lube will not make you clean. There is a strong mental fear of cleanliness that most
men feel. Clean you anus and you should relax much more. An enema is not recommended. Instead purchase an ear syringe at a pharmacy or drugstore. Place some warm water comfortable to the touch in a
clean cup. Squeeze the air out of the syringe bulb and insert the tip into the water. After the water is drawn up into the bulb put a bit of
lube on the tip of the syringe, sit on the toilet and squeeze the water into your butt. Remove the syringe and hold the water in for one
minute. Then let it go and you will see that you have cleaned out the lower part of the rectum. Wipe yourself clean.
If you are new to anal sex you need to go slow, that is that you need
to give yourself plenty of time to relax. What do we mean by slow? Five to ten minutes is NOT going to do in most cases. This is not a race. You need to lay back and enjoy it! A half an hour to an hour
should be about right! Take even longer if you have the time. Remember that the sphincter muscles around the anus will not allow things to pass through easily unless you relax and take it slow. Do
not start with something the size of a dildo or penis. Start with either: a) your partner's finger or b) a small butt plug. The plug provides a unique sensation and many couples consider it an exciting
addition to the bedroom. If you're more comfortable with a partner's finger then start with that. The basic principle is to start small and work your way up.
 Try gently inserting a well lubricated finger,
perhaps covered by a condom into the anus first. This will enable the receiving partner to find out whether penetration is comfortable and enjoyable. Having managed to
accommodate one finger, you can run the finger around the anal canal - gently stretching it. This must be done delicately and slowly so as not to cause pain or injury. After
you have slid one finger in slowly letting him adjust to it, take your finger all the way out, then push it back in again. Next you can try to insert two fingers. Consider how big your
penis is and realize that two fingers is probably enough. If this is successfully achieved, the couple may agree to try with a well-lubricated penis or with a butt plug, dildo or vibrator.
Gentleness, care, adequate lubrication and anal relaxation are required, not the insertive partner pushing harder! Be sure to use condoms for penile penetration to reduce the risk of sexually
transmitted disease such as HIV/AIDS. It is also important to use a water-based lubricant. Other lubricants may cause condoms to split, as will over-energetic thrusting without adequate lubrication.
Specially toughened condoms designed for anal intercourse may offer more protection. The insertive partner must control his thrusting, so
as to give the receptive partner time to allow his sphincter to relax. With time and practice, this will become easier.
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